hello lovely world people out there, decided to finally start writing little stories, honest stories, stories i go on and on about in my head and sometimes stories that i don’t have an answer to.. hope you like reading it and get a bit of a spin for your own day by day// life story
all we have in life can be seen from two perspectives: you can either appreciate what you have or you can constantly long for what you don’t have. it is all a matter of perspective and our mindset is a powerful tool so be cautious how you shape your daily thoughts.
if you constantly hover in the void and look to others and want what they have, you will not feel any contentment. why? it’s all a matter of perspective: in my opinion, even if you would have what they have, you will always find something that you will be jealous of that is again beyond reach.. reaching one status, will automatically open a new “wanna-have-next-status” and leave you displeased with the status quo and this game will go on and on and on.. if you are not happy and frugal with what is there, it’s a mindset problem and not a status problem.. work on the structure of your thoughts and how you see life everyday..
i recently read that according to research people who won the lottery and people who lost the use of their legs were equally happy with their lives after more or less a year. imagine how insane that sounds: paraplegics and millionaires felt the same level of happiness. this made it so clear to me that it is never about what you own that determines how happy you are in life.
i, myself had many components in the past of what people would call the perfect life: huge salary, fancy cars and a lot of trappings that most people were looking up to and told me how lucky i must be to have them.. but let me tell you a secret: on the outside it looked like the perfect world but on the inside i felt like a bird in a golden cage, trapped in someone else’s life, most of the time not happy at all. so i thought, as most of us do: it is about to reach more, to earn more and own more and then happiness will be around the corner. a very common “if-then” concept of our modern life: if i reach the next level, the reward will be happiness. yeah, the idea might make sense, but trust me i learned this concept doesn’t create the outcome deserved. once you achieve what you thought will bring happiness, you realize, it doesn’t. happiness is not somewhere outside of you waiting to be picked up and lived, happiness is an inside job to be developed and nourished day by day.
buying and owning more things, thinking they would at some point give me the feeling of happiness, ended up feeling the weight of attachment to things and creating the opposite feel: the void towards happiness grew bigger and bigger in me.. i did not appreciate any of that.. and i learned a very simple lesson: you will not be able to find happiness outside of you.
it’s your attitude towards life that is making a difference and then it’s the people and connections that make our lives meaningful.. so train your thoughts like a muscle, like a huge and very complex muscle.. and eventually you get there to feel this inner happiness.. it might sound really simple but it took me long time to discover this powerful recipe. and even longer to “train” this state of mind.
leaving many trappings behind and consciously defining a new way of living life on my own terms, made a huge impact. months and years of inner engineering of my thoughts, brought me closer to the realization of how i can float in a happy state. but the journey also included to spend lots time with me and dealing with all kind of topics that i possibly didn’t want to deal with. that part truly comes for free :-) let me put it like that: it might change you as a person and into someone you have never imagined you could be, but i strongly believe each stage is worth the journey. a journey to the deepest core of your personality with all its flaws and needs. and towards the realization of how simple life is in its core and how complicated we humans manage to make it.
and at some point you realize how simple the formula of happiness is: you always have both possibilities of looking at things. you understand the impact of your perspective and you realize that this is the birthplace of happiness. it’s up to you how you perceive the world. this is where you decide if whatever happens to you, you see as a curse or as a blessing. and the point is, in taking both decisions you will be right. it’s only up to you..
enjoy the journey. keep up the inner work.
thank you for reading until this point, means the world to me..
much love, K